Learning to Adapt
“Oh you got to learn to roll with the changes”
“Roll with the Changes,” REO Speedwagon; lyrics by Kevin Patrick Cronin
By Karyn Brodsky
Preparing for the Transition
Moving from elementary school to middle school can feel like a thrilling rollercoaster ride, as described by Betsy Graham, Principal of Prince of Peace Christian School in Carrollton. It might seem intimidating, and you might hear screams, but once you’re on this journey, the excitement kicks in, and you appreciate why many want to experience it again.
To ease this transition for your child, Graham suggests doing some homework. Research the teachers, class schedules, and any fun events coming up. Check if the school has summer classes or camps to help your child get used to the environment. If extra academic support is needed, inquire about summer prep options so your child can start the school year confidently.
Understanding the Challenges
Dean Beckloff, Ph.D., a child, teen, and family counselor at Beckloff Pediatric Behavioral Center in Dallas, notes that middle school brings about a new set of pressures for students. They may feel anxious about navigating the school environment, especially those with learning disabilities. He recommends reassuring them that the staff—hall monitors, teachers, counselors, and administrators—will be available to assist. Many middle schools organize tours for new students, and some even host parent orientations.
Beckloff observes that entering middle school often gives students a sense of independence from their parents. This marks a cognitive and emotional shift, with an emerging attitude of “I don’t need you.” While it’s essential for them to become self-reliant, parents should ensure they are keeping up with their assignments and staying organized. The school’s website, academic coaches, or tutors can help them manage their responsibilities.
Empowering Your Child
Christina Tipton, Director of Admissions and Outreach at Fusion Academy in Plano, emphasizes that parents need to step back and acknowledge the difficulties of this transition. Often, parents inadvertently do too much for their children. She believes that instilling confidence in students won’t eliminate the challenges, but the more they are allowed to make choices and decisions, the better they will cope.
Being Supportive
Graham reminds parents that middle schoolers are still essentially kids. Their bodies and voices are changing, and they are approaching adolescence. While it may feel awkward for students to have “helicopter parents,” they still require guidance and support through their difficulties. The journey through middle school is unique to each student, and parents play a crucial role in cheering on their successes along the way.
