Every stage of life carries its own essence, from the excitement of birth to our final days and everything in between. It involves personal development, and with development comes change, which affects our minds, bodies, social status, goals, and perspectives on the world. This change is even observable in the seemingly simple act of returning to school each year; a little older, a little taller, and a little wiser. We affectionately call it the playlist of life.
by Karyn Brodsky | Staff Writer
Transitioning from Elementary to Middle School
“Ch – Ch – Changes.” – “Changes”, lyrics by David Bowie
Probably the most significant transformation occurs when a child steps into middle school. Along with the obvious physical changes prompted by puberty, emotional upheavals ensue as hormones shift, leading children to start noticing the opposite sex and facing social pressures that begin to emerge.
Sonja Pegram, Principal at Renner Middle School in Plano, mentions that “The transition from elementary to middle school introduces the aspect of the unknown, compounded by tall tales about ‘big schools.’” She explains that fifth graders often start feeling anxious about their upcoming transition around winter break. Concerns revolve around looming homework, establishing study habits, being late, handling bullies, and keeping up with older students. Such worries can overshadow the excitement of moving on to broader educational opportunities. Pegram notes, “Unfortunately, many of these myths originate with their fifth-grade teachers.” Teachers often aim to push students to prepare and, at times, use these exaggerations to prevent misbehavior or early signs of ‘fifth-gradeitis,’ akin to ‘senioritis.’
Although the change from elementary to middle school might initially seem intimidating, students generally discover that their fears were largely unfounded and that they were simply intimidated by uncertainty.
Parent-to-Parent Guidance
• Collaborate with your child to establish an organizational system. We used an accordion binder labeled for each subject, providing a designated spot for homework and papers.
• Encourage your child to maintain an agenda/calendar to record all homework assignments. If there’s no homework, have them mark it with a large X.
• Utilize tutoring opportunities both before and after school. – Stephanie R. (Plano)
• Middle school presents numerous challenges concerning friendships. It’s essential for parents to allow their kids to learn to manage these conflicts independently, stepping in only when absolutely necessary. – Amy B. (Frisco)
• Teach them to manage their time effectively. Waiting until the last minute to study for exams or complete projects can lead to unnecessary stress, as other commitments will always arise. – Trish Z. (Carrollton)
Transitioning from Middle to High School
“What’s the matter with the crowd I’m seeing? Don’t you know that they’re out of touch?” – “Still Rock and Roll to Me”, lyrics by Billy Joel
The shift from middle school to high school introduces the urgency to be “cool.” Concerns about peer pressure, acceptance, and fitting in dominate as preteens evolve into teenagers. Eventually, the focus shifts to “I’ve Gotta Be Me” (Golden Rainbow, lyrics by Walter Marks), as upperclassmen strive for individuality.
Stephany Sipes, Assistant Principal at Independence High School in Frisco, highlights that the transition from middle school to high school entails many challenges, particularly social hurdles like meeting new people and adjusting to a different routine. “It’s a new, larger school with new teachers, and friend groups often change,” she explains. Sipes believes students should wholeheartedly embrace their new surroundings right away. “I always encourage students to get involved immediately, whether through athletics, fine arts, or student organizations,” she emphasizes. “Establishing connections significantly influences their transition and success.”
Parent-to-Parent Advice
• Avoid micromanaging or being a helicopter parent. High school is an excellent time for students to learn from their mistakes while still under your care. – Christy E. (McKinney)
• When your high school student starts a serious conversation or poses an intricate question, remember to pause before replying. Instead of offering answers, ask questions to uncover the context behind their thoughts.
• Trust your child’s judgment at times. – Jeanne L. (Dallas)
• Encourage your child to get involved in extracurriculars such as clubs or athletic teams to help them make new friends. – Ann M. (Plano)
Transitioning from High School to College
“I’ve got to be where my spirit can run free.” – Pippin, “Corner of the Sky,” lyrics by Stephen Schwartz
As teenagers move from high school to college, it’s an opportunity for them to assert their independence and discover their true selves. For many, this is their first experience of being alone and navigating their own path.
Karolyn Fritz, a mother from Plano, observes her daughter transitioning from high school to college. “The most significant challenge for my daughter has been embracing independence while remaining somewhat apprehensive about what lies ahead,” she notes. “Plano West is a big high school, which should facilitate her transition to the University of Texas.” Fritz acknowledges that her daughter will need to advocate for herself, which may be initially unsettling but ultimately serves as a vital learning and maturation process. “We will support her from a distance. I believe she has a promising future ahead, and the world is hers to explore.”
Parent-to-Parent Advice
• Ensure your child has a solid grasp of essential finances and budgeting. – Rob L. (Dallas)
Parent-to-Student Advice
• Join organizations that encourage you to step outside your comfort zone, particularly those aligned with your beliefs and interests. – Rhonda W. (Plano)
• Explore the various organizations and clubs available on campus. Choose a couple that genuinely interest you, keeping in mind that less can be more. – Jennifer G. (Allen)
Student-to-Student Advice
• Be friendly to everyone you encounter! Make as many friends as possible and don’t just stay in your dorm; go out and actively engage with your environment. – Emily M., student (University of Texas)
• Schedule in relaxation time along with your academic and study commitments. Prioritizing time for fun will enhance your overall college experience since self-care is crucial. – Sean M. (Oklahoma University)
Transitioning from College to Career or Graduate School
“Gotta find my corner of the sky.” – Pippin, “Corner of the Sky,” lyrics by Stephen Schwartz
Earning a bachelor’s degree stirs a complex mix of emotions within a graduate, encompassing pride, accountability, and the drive to become a valuable member of society. This phase brings a considerable transition from carefree student life to a more serious employment landscape.
Mackenzie R. Ferch from Dallas shares her insights on this challenging transition. “One of the most difficult challenges for me when moving from college to the corporate world was realizing that manners truly matter,” she admits. “While college didn’t teach me to be rude or boisterous, I made mistakes after graduation.” Ferch emphasizes the need for self-awareness regarding what one says and how they behave. “Even subtle aspects like tone and body language can significantly influence workplace dynamics – there are two elements to every job: performing your tasks correctly and collaborating effectively.” While college equipped her with essential knowledge and skills, it’s her experiences that help improve her professional delivery.
Advice to College Students from Recent Graduates in their Twenties:
• Graduating and stepping into the workforce is an ideal time to take risks in your life. You have the next 43 years to build a career, so focus on finding a path that brings you joy. Embrace new adventures, make new friends, and try new experiences while you’re young and unencumbered by responsibilities. If your first career choice doesn’t pan out, that’s perfectly fine – you have ample time to shift gears and pursue something new. – Lee B.
• You will make many decisions that feel monumental, but remember that there’s no perfect choice every time. That ideal option doesn’t exist. Continuously remind yourself that there’s always room for reevaluation. Don’t fixate on salary or titles; focus on engaging in work that excites and entertains you, doing what you want rather than what others expect of you. – Nicole P.
Good Life Family welcomes your thoughts and tips on transitions! Reach out to us at Tricia@goodlifefamilymag.com.
