By Vanita Halliburton | Contributor
We’ve all encountered the expression, “The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.” Despite knowing it’s not accurate, we sometimes let ourselves believe that other families are managing parenthood more successfully than we are. We might convince ourselves that other parents have taken advantage of this period of social distancing to cook delightful family dinners every night, have deep conversations with their teenagers, and impart essential life lessons. Gazing through tinted windows into their lives, we might assume they have better-adjusted, high-achieving, and trouble-free children gliding seamlessly through adolescence towards becoming exemplary teens and prosperous young adults.
It’s time to dispel that myth. It simply isn’t true. Statistics reveal that one in five adolescents has a diagnosable mental health condition, and approximately one in three shows noticeable signs of depression. Yet, many do not seek help, often because their symptoms go unnoticed and undiagnosed.
If you’re still distracted by that metaphorical greener grass, take a moment to look around your neighborhood and consider this: one in five families has a teenager who may be experiencing depression, anxiety, self-harm, substance use, or displaying behaviors such as anger, aggression, or withdrawal. Statistically, each classroom in your teen’s school likely has five or six students exhibiting signs of depression.
If left unaddressed, mental health issues can lead to various other complications, including poor academic performance, conflicts with family and peers, substance abuse, damaged relationships, or legal troubles. These issues also place a child at an elevated risk for suicide, which is the second leading cause of death among youth in Texas.
That notion makes sense. If someone isn’t feeling well—whether from the flu, clinical depression, or crippling anxiety—their ability to navigate daily life is compromised. Everything becomes a challenge, from handling basic tasks to meeting the demands of school and relationships.
Here’s another statistic to consider: Approximately half of all psychiatric conditions manifest before the age of 14. Yet, on average, there’s a nine-year gap between the onset of symptoms and when individuals receive treatment. That’s far too long. Ignoring the signs of mental distress can rob our children and teens of their health, hindering their well-being at a time when crucial development and learning occurs.
We can improve this situation. First, we need to learn to identify the signs of mental or emotional disorders just as readily as we recognize the symptoms of a common cold.
Common signs of depression include ongoing irritability, sadness, anger, or social withdrawal, along with significant changes in eating or sleeping patterns. Depressed children may feel overwhelmed or fatigued and withdraw from activities they once enjoyed. Other potential symptoms include chronic pain, headaches, or stomach issues.
When we notice such changes, it might be easy to dismiss them as typical teenage mood swings or blame them on hormonal fluctuations. However, it’s far more prudent to consider that something else might be occurring and to seek a professional evaluation. As with any other health condition, a checkup from a qualified expert is essential.
Unfortunately, the stigma surrounding mental health disorders often prevents some adolescents and families from seeking assistance. This is unfortunate because depression is highly treatable. With the right mix of medication, therapy, or both, most individuals suffering from depression can be effectively supported. Many mental health professionals are enhancing accessibility to treatment through telehealth services, helping to reduce barriers to receiving help.
Seeking treatment for mental health disorders—especially as soon as symptoms arise—can lessen the effects on a teenager’s life and equip them with tools to manage the stresses and pressures they face.
Here’s the reality regarding green grass: Every lawn occasionally faces weeds and brown spots. However, with appropriate care, those issues can be addressed, and the grass can return to a healthy state. We should strive to do the same for our children.
How can I tell if my child is depressed?
Recognize the signs.
It’s common for teenagers and young adults to experience temporary feelings of sadness or moodiness. However, when these feelings persist for weeks, it might indicate a more severe issue. Depression is very prevalent, affecting over 2 million young individuals. Below are some potential symptoms of depression in a teenager:
- Persistent sadness or frequent crying that doesn’t seem to fade.
- Feelings of guilt without cause; a sense of worthlessness or loss of confidence.
- A feeling that life is pointless or a belief that nothing good will happen again.
- A predominantly negative outlook or an apparent lack of feelings.
- A disinterest in activities once enjoyed, including music, sports, socializing with friends, or simply wanting to be left alone.
- Difficulty making decisions, forgetfulness, and a struggle to concentrate.
- Frequent irritability; trivial matters lead to losing temper or overreacting.
- Changes in sleep patterns, sleeping much more or less than usual.
- Altered eating habits, either loss of appetite or increased eating.
- Turns to drugs or alcohol as a coping mechanism.
- Experiencing persistent and unexplained aches or pains.
- Feeling restless and fatigued most of the time.
- Thoughts of death or feeling as though one is dying; contemplating suicide.
Know how to respond.
- Seek professional assistance. Don’t wait to see if the depression improves on its own.
- Consult a doctor who can rule out physical health conditions that may contribute to depressive symptoms.
- Familiarize yourself with treatment options. The most effective approach often involves medication or therapy, or a combination of both. Therapy can assist individuals in developing healthier problem-solving skills and altering negative thought patterns.
- Adhere to the treatment plan. Attend therapy sessions regularly and avoid discontinuing medications without consulting the doctor.
- Prioritize overall health. Maintain a balanced diet, engage in regular exercise, and ensure adequate sleep.
- Participate in positive activities.
- Keep a journal to track feelings, which can help identify triggers and effective depression treatments.
- If experiencing suicidal thoughts, seek help immediately. Call 800-273-8255 to speak with a trained counselor in your area.
Need immediate assistance?
If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide or self-harm:
Call 911 or visit the nearest emergency department.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
800-273-TALK (800-273-8255)
suicidepreventionlifeline.org
Crisis Text Line
Text HELP to 741741
crisistextline.org
The Trevor Project Helpline for LGBTQ+ Youth
866-488-7386
thetrevorproject.org
If you are searching for mental health resources:
HereForTexas.com
A resource developed by the Grant Halliburton Foundation that provides a comprehensive selection of information on mental health topics and North Texas resources and professionals.
About Grant Halliburton Foundation
The Grant Halliburton Foundation strives to enhance the accessibility of mental health resources for children, teens, and young adults; advocate for better mental health; and prevent suicide. Founded in 2006 in memory of a Dallas teenager who struggled with depression and bipolar disorder before his tragic death by suicide at age 19, the Foundation works to assist families and young people in recognizing mental illness signs through various educational efforts, conferences, collaborations, and encouragement. Annually, the Foundation provides mental health education, training, and support to over 49,000 students, educators, parents, and professionals. For more details, visit GrantHalliburton.org.
ABOUT VANITA HALLIBURTON:
Vanita is the co-founder and executive chair of the Grant Halliburton Foundation, established in 2006 following her son Grant Halliburton’s tragic death by suicide. She frequently speaks on youth mental health and suicide prevention, sharing her son’s journey with depression and bipolar disorder, his suicide at age 19, and emphasizing the importance of a collective approach to suicide prevention in our communities.
