By Alicia Wanek
This fall might signify a significant change for your child. Transitioning to middle school, high school, or college can be a life-altering experience for not just them, but for you as well. Perhaps your little girl has even tied the knot, or your youngest has relocated for a new job in a different state. Witnessing your children grow and become independent is one of the greatest joys of parenting.
When our kids were infants, it was hard to envision a time when they wouldn’t depend on us for everything. Now they return to us with a casual, “See ya later,” as they head out the door. They still need your support, but their demands on your time have lessened.
So, how will you utilize this newfound free time?
Take a nap? Have lunch? Binge-watch your favorite TV show? All of these are wonderful options, but perhaps there’s something else you’ve wanted to pursue.
Think About Continuing Your Education
This could be the perfect opportunity to dive into a subject you’ve always wanted to learn more about. You might consider exploring a new career or completing a degree you started before becoming a parent. Community colleges are an excellent venue to nurture your interests without breaking the bank. Consider taking a class in art history or a new language. Richland College in Dallas provides courses in various topics, such as dog obedience, wedding planning, and real estate certification. Their Emeritus program for those over 50 offers day trips and courses ranging from computer skills to wellness. Education is termed “continuing” for a reason: everyone stands to gain from acquiring new knowledge.
Start a New Hobby
In middle school, one of my fellow piano students was a man older than my father. I presumed he was a virtuoso practicing intricate pieces until I overheard him rehearsing rudimentary songs one day because I arrived early. He had simply always wished to learn piano and decided it was not too late to start. His story comes to mind whenever I think I am too old to try something new.
My Uncle Harry worked exhausting 80-hour weeks as a physician throughout his career. After his youngest child left home, he took up golfing as a semi-retirement hobby. He emphasizes that maintaining an exercise routine and socializing with friends is vital, particularly in retirement. “Golf serves a dual purpose,” he says. “It’s a social sport that gets me active and outdoors.” Plus, he now has much more time to refine his swing than he did in earlier years!
Have you ever loved to dance? The Chamberlain School of Ballet (see p. 68 for a related story) offers adult programs in ballet, tap, and modern dance—NO prior experience necessary. You need not worry; these classes don’t perform at recitals!
Many adults often miss creative outlets. The Artists’ Showplace Gallery in North Dallas features the work of countless late-blooming artists. This hidden gem exhibits the masterpieces of sculptors, jewelry makers, painters, and more within its expansive 12,000-square-foot space. They also provide art classes and painting workshops, often led by prominent artists. However, don’t let that intimidate you. “We welcome artists of all skill levels to create, learn, and enjoy themselves!” says San Cheang, director of art education at The Artists’ Showplace.
Engaging in an exercise routine might mean initiating a new fitness program. Shannon Rene from Fit N Pilates in Plano explains, “Exercise can be the best remedy for stress. Regular workouts can help you cope better and minimize stress’s adverse effects.” After working in various fitness facilities, Shannon opened her own studio, where she channels her passion for helping clients achieve their fitness and wellness goals, alongside her firm belief in Pilates principles. She asserts, “The more you move, the younger you feel.” Keep that in mind while exercising!
Find a New Social Circle
Once my youngest started school, I joined a book club with my mother. It became a fun activity for us, and I looked forward to spending quality time unwinding with a good book. Clare Korst’s children are all in college now, and her book club has provided a fantastic outlet. “Though I miss having my kids at home, one positive aspect of their absence is the opportunity to rethink how I allocate my time. I can engage in things I love, like reading. Joining a wonderful book club not only fuels my passion but has also introduced me to a fabulous new group of friends I adore—friends I wouldn’t have met if I had remained focused only on my kids’ activities,” she says.
As your children mature, many of your friends’ kids are likely growing up as well. Spending time with other couples can provide a welcome social outlet. You might find a dining/cooking club an enjoyable way to set aside time for friends while sharing a delicious meal. These clubs typically establish a framework early on—deciding whether to meet at someone’s home or a restaurant, whether to do potluck-style meals or take turns cooking, and how frequently to gather. I’ve heard of supper clubs that have persisted for decades. Laura Lynch of Savored Journeys describes a supper club as “a fun gathering of friends sharing a passion for cooking (and eating!) great meals while enjoying good conversation.” Who wouldn’t want more time for that?
Harriet Heckel reflects on her long-term cooking club: “It’s a wonderful way to stay in touch with friends, share some wine, and learn new recipes.”
The possibilities are truly endless. Whether you’re interested in bridge, mahjongg, travel, or history, there are likely others in the metroplex with similar interests. Check out meetup.com to find a group that resonates with you.
Make a Positive Impact
Why not combine your interests with an opportunity to assist others? Non-profit organizations are always seeking volunteers, so consider dedicating some of your “extra” time to a local cause that stirs your passion.
Perhaps you want to support children with special needs, aid the homeless, or confront the drug crisis. Thousands of local non-profits are making a significant impact. Websites like volunteermatch.org can help you locate an organization that aligns with your interests, schedule, and location.
As our children grow older, we can turn our attention toward our own needs. My uncle often says, “You can’t expect to sit around at home and find happiness.” Discover your passion and get started!
