
Leave the Salacious Details to the Tabloids
by Brad LaMorgese | Contributor
In today’s world, where tabloid television, celebrity magazines, and online gossip dominate the media landscape, it’s nearly impossible to escape the extensive coverage of celebrity culture. These outlets often dig into scandalous details about the latest high-profile breakups and, as the saying goes, provide the audience with what they desire.
Following the recent news that Amber Heard filed for divorce from Johnny Depp amidst accusations of domestic violence, it’s become evident that celebrity separations have morphed into a gripping mixture of drama and a spectator event eagerly monitored by the public. Each subsequent headline only serves to widen the gap between Depp’s supporters and those who believe Heard has suffered a nightmare over the last four years.
When the particulars of a celebrity’s divorce hit the headlines, it can be incredibly difficult to look away. Sadly, this phenomenon is mirrored in the divorces of everyday individuals, especially in the age of social media where “oversharing” is more common than not.
Although some celebrities may seek the spotlight even during a divorce, employing destructive methods in the “real world” can complicate legal matters and harm the emotional well-being of both parties involved, as well as their loved ones.
Informing friends about your challenging decision to end your marriage may be wise, but despite your emotional turmoil, resist the temptation to express your frustrations publicly or initiate gossip campaigns against your spouse. This is especially critical when children are involved. Regardless of your efforts to protect them, the stability of their family life is already shaken by the impending divorce; thus, it’s vital to keep in mind that while you are a pillar of support for them, they are not your support system. Your role as their source of comfort can be threatened by your public outpourings and raw accusations.
Divorce is a transformative experience, making it essential to have reliable allies—particularly a close friend or attorney—who can offer a listening ear and support during this tumultuous period. However, the trivial involvement of an old acquaintance from third grade on Facebook is hardly necessary. The fleeting solace gained from rallying support around you will eventually fade, and initiating personal attacks can invite backlash from your spouse.
Judicial matters, particularly family law, are rarely well-served when played out in the court of public opinion. This holds especially true for divorce proceedings, which are among the most stressful life changes, comparable to the loss of a loved one, job termination, or severe illness. While it is undeniable that divorce exerts a significant emotional burden on everyone involved, how you choose to manage that stress will influence the timeline of your recovery. Exposing your pain publicly will only extend hostility and delay healing. When unsure, opt for the dignified path.
Brad LaMorgese is a partner at the Family Law firm Orsinger, Nelson, Downing & Anderson, LLP. He frequently represents clients in trials and appeals concerning high-stakes legal disputes, including issues relating to jurisdiction, prenuptial agreement litigation, property division, child custody, and visitation.
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